July 2, 2018
It seems that holding on to grudges and not letting go of the past is so much a theme for people that are not happy or healthy.
Forgiveness is more for yourself than the other person. You are not exonerating people’s behavior or past actions, you are letting the festering feeling out of your aura, chakras and glands that eat you up inside.
It is also important to forgive yourself. I had a patient early on who had pancreatic cancer, so I referred her to my teacher. She did surgery along with the natural, but he found it was a painful event, when her house burned down and her son died, that triggered the cancer because she never forgave her self for not being able to save him. She survived this normally lethal cancer. My teacher, who had to leave the US to Canada because the authorities don’t want to have people who get good results with cancer, said that in general he found that people with cancer tend to have a little black book in their unconscious where they remember all the slights and wrongs done to them by others. To heal they must burn this book.
Jesus was a real revolutionary. The whole culture at the time was about the eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth consciousness. When he said to turn the other cheek or forgive 70 times 7, that was a big deal. Look at the Middle East today, if only they had accepted his teaching of radical forgiveness, instead of always getting even.
He has one interesting quote, that “your enemies will be of your own household” I think of this in terms of reincarnation. Those you hold a charge with, whether with love or hatred, binds you to them, and they may end up in your own family in the future so you can work it all out through forgiveness. If at first you can’t be positive towards the person, try at least to be neutral. I have worked with many people who are estranged from their family, who never have any contact. These people seem to have some deep intractable health issues. It seems best for them if they open up a channel, with boundaries, to just check in or let them know you forgive them and wish the best for them. This becomes a great liberation, and then emotional and physical health issues and present relationships can finally start to resolve.
On an energetic level I find that the color pink has to do with compassion and violet with forgiveness, you can visualize these colors flowing from your heart to the person or situation and just affirm “I am forgiveness acting here” “I let go of all past hurts” “I let you go into the Light” “I am letting go of all past pain” If the pain is too much to forgive at first, then start with sending the pink or violet energy to someone you love, then to a stranger or animal, then to the world, then see the person that you have a grudge against and see if you can give them some mercy. When you understand psychology you see that people have hurt children inside them. Maybe they were abused or neglected as children and the way they treated you was the way they were treated and how they treat themselves. If you imagine them as a baby or toddler that might help the forgiveness process. Mentally wish them well, as by the law of karma, everything they have put out will eventually come back to them. Hope that they can learn their life lessons.
Especially in marriages and love relationships it is important to not keep a tally of the wrongs, but to let them all go right away, or at least before bed, as the bible says “let not the sun go down upon thy wrath”
I have heard it said in esoteric teachings that if you go to bed angry at someone, your emotional or astral body can go out and attack that person and even do them some harm.
I just talked to a couple that have memorized their marriage vows and recite it to each other before bed each night. Now they are becoming a positive force for many other couples they interact with.
I am always amazed how people who get divorced, even if they were married for decades,, tend to only recall the negatives and can hardly remember why they said “I do” with a vow or any of the early love in their relationship. When there are children in divorce, the ability of the parents to forgive and even be able to share special occasions together with the whole family without animosity, is so important for the children, no matter what the age.
Of course the main thing is to forgive yourself. Life is a series of self corrections. The word sin really is from an archery term meaning “to miss the mark” so you just re aim and try again and you will get closer and closer to your goal without seeking to be perfect. But try to be perfect at forgiving yourself and others, it makes the journey so much lighter.
I have been doing a process called QNRT, or quantum neuro reset therapy. We find where the past traumas are stuck in the brain and the body and let them go. We have neurons in our brain where we have a pattern from a trauma. You know how a dog that has been kicked by a man, will put its tail between its legs if it sees any men. So we have glasses we wear based on past trauma and project that onto others. So many women notice they attract the same kind of man but once the traumas are healed they can attract something different based upon love and intimacy.
The different glands and organs are also where trauma and emotional pain are held. We know from Chinese medicine that organs can hold onto emotions like lungs for grief, and liver for anger. In the QNRT practice there are connections between each body part and hurt feelings, so the uterus can be conflicts with men and thyroid powerlessness. So many health problems are from old emotions that we haven’t let go of.
So as they say, forgive and forget. You still may have a memory of the negative event, but it doesn’t have to hold a charge anymore or push your buttons or make you react.
I actually use less supplements with people than I used to because of this emotional work. When the organs and meridians are no longer holding onto unresolved issues then they function better. Often when people first come in the adrenal glands, which have to do with fatigue and inflammation and stress shows exhausted, but once we peel off the unresolved past and forgive it, then the adrenals come back on line. I even have done an experiment of dowsing how far the aura is before and after a QNRT session. Some people are a few inches right before the session and after the reset, when the emotions are cleared, the aura goes across the room.
Have you ever heard of the Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono. It is a practice, a ritual of ownership of a problem and a complete forgiveness.
There are four simple steps to this method, and the order is not that important. Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love2are the only forces at work – but these forces have amazing power.
Step 1: Repentance – I’M SORRY
The idea is that you are responsible for everything in your mind, even if it seems to be “out there.” Once you realize that, it’s very natural to feel sorry. If I hear of a tornado, I am so full of remorse that something in my consciousness has created that idea. It is taking ownership for all suffering, so if someone I know has a broken bone that I realize I may have some responsibility.
This realization can be painful, and you will likely resist accepting responsibility for the “out there” kind of problems until you start to practice this method on your more obvious “in here” problems and see results.
So choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself? Over-weight? Addicted to nicotine, alcohol or some other substance? Do you have anger issues? Health problems? Start there and say you’re sorry. That’s the whole step: I’M SORRY. Although I think it is more powerful if you say it more clearly: “I realize that I am responsible for the (issue) in my life and I feel terrible remorse that something in my consciousness has caused this.”2
Step 2: Ask Forgiveness – PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Don’t worry about who you’re asking. Just ask! PLEASE FORGIVE ME. Say it over and over. Mean it. Remember your remorse from step 1 as you ask to be forgiven.
Step 3: Gratitude – THANK YOU
Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking. Thank your body for all it does for you. Thank yourself for being the best you can be. Thank God. Thank the Universe. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.
Step 4: Love – I LOVE YOU
This can also be step 1. Say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, say it to God. Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, to the house that shelters you. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing as powerful as Love.
That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. Simple and amazingly effective.
If you tend to keep bringing up your own past and revolving it over and over with guilt and shame, you may want to write a confession letter to God, your Higher Self. Write down your life history and all the mistakes and wrongs you have done, you don’t have to ever show it to everyone else. We are our own worst judges. Once you confessed it, make a deep prayer that you want forgiveness for all that you have recounted, accept that you are forgiving by God and the Universe, the only catch is that once it is forgiven you can never take it up again and blame or shame yourself again. That would be a sign of a lack of faith that you have been forgiven. You can start a new life in the now, and if you slip up, as we all do, then get in the habit of confessing and forgiving it right away.
So many people wash their hands and brush their teeth as a way of of practicing hygiene. Well forgiveness is your emotional hygiene that you can practice moment by moment. This is the only moment you will ever have, just the now. Don’t spoil it by continually bringing the negative past into this moment. Right now everything is perfect, let it be and enjoy.