Warren, sending love and light to your family and especially Paivi in the coming days! I hope the surgery was successful and Paivi is resting comfortably today. Sometimes situations present themselves to nudge us forward. With the need for surgery and the need to reside in memory care following surgery, this transition may be happening so The decision feels ever so slightly easier and not all on you and the children’s shoulders to choose the transition date to full time care.
With each transition there is still uncertainly that we each feel but you have always been cared for, I am sure this will all make sense to you in the coming days, weeks, and months.
Continue to take care of yourself Warren, guide your children and offer unconditional love to Paivi.